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Life Coach, NYC, Executive Leadership Coach, Personal Development Coach, New York - Coaching Leaders, Entrepreneurs, and Creatives to be more Confident, Productive, and Fulfilled.

The Wake-Up

 

 

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Life in Layers

John Kalinowski

life coach, nyc, executive leadership coach, enoughness, personal development

As we wrap up another year and set our sights on the next, I have been reflecting on what it is all for. The work I do with clients is often about getting unstuck, which involves opening up one layer at a time. I feel the same way about the work I do with myself. Sometimes I think of it like peeling back an onion. With each layer of the onion that I peel back, there is an opportunity to grow. Sometimes I get cocky and think, “But I’ve already read those books and asked those questions?! I’m grown!” Yeah, right. Wouldn’t that be nice.

The learning journey doesn’t end just because we have reached a certain age or attained more or less tolerance for bullshit than we had ten years ago. The learning continues. It’s on-going. There will always be another layer to peel back and work on. There will always be another opportunity to grow. If we feel like we have plateaued or are stuck in one or more areas of our lives, then there is inevitably an internal mindset shift waiting to happen.

The key to life is openness. Like the onion, life is an endless journey of opening oneself. And the best way to do that is through connection, first with ourselves, then with others. Connection is one of the primary vehicles for growth. Whether it’s the people in our lives who are supportive, or the ones who annoy the hell out of us, every relationship is a learning lab, and the lessons learned are all geared toward making us more loving individuals.

As long as we keep coaching ourselves with questions like, “what can I learn from this experience?” “what is my opportunity to grow?” and “how is this happening FOR me instead of to me?” we will continue to find answers that propel us forward. Those answers may surprise us, they might inspire us, or they may be painful. But that’s the journey… there will always be another layer to peel back. There will always be more love, openness, and personal fulfillment to be had.

The internal journey is what it is all for. The external is just a reflection.

Wishing you a fulfilling 2019! #redpill

xJohn

Be More Productive By Accepting Your Limitations

John Kalinowski

life coach, life coach nyc, executive coach, leadership coach, personal development coach

Well hello! How is your year shaping up so far? I am trying my best over here, and generally feeling pretty good about things. I have a lot of projects underway and one of the projects I have been working on is my blog. Every time I start writing again I feel inspired and excited. Then, at some point, I get busy, distracted, feel like I have nothing more to say, lose momentum, and inevitably stop. Though I ultimately accept my choice, there are always some feelings of “I’m not enough or I’m not doing enough” that tug at me in the weeks and months afterward.

The thing is, I like writing! I like letting you know what I am thinking about and working on, while also hopefully adding some value to your life. Every year around this time I tend to get inspired to write. I map out a writing schedule, create the framework for a dozen pieces over the course of a few weeks, then schedule them for release over the next few months. I typically edit or totally rewrite several articles prior to release, but it’s the initial push that sets everything up.

What happens after I have sent out all of those blog posts? Well, the intention is to use the momentum to continue writing and posting, but unfortunately it doesn’t seem to be what happens. About the time that I need to start writing to keep up with the schedule I have established, I find that I have already embarked on what will be a longer-than-ideal break until I feel the writing itch again, and it all repeats.

This year, I am trying something different. I have already planned and written the framework for a bunch of articles, and, instead of publishing one each week or every other week, I will now be publishing one per month. What a novel idea!?! Instead of imposing a schedule on myself that has shown not to work (for me), I am instead committing to a consistency that feels more manageable. The plan being that by the time these run out I will have already hit my next creative writing phase and churned out a whole new batch of outlines.

We shall see how it turns out! Some people can pick something up and stick to it from day one. But far more people, like myself, pick it up, put it down, let it sit, dust it off, pick it up, put it down, and so on until it finally sticks. If you are also one of “those” people, then it’s important that you and I stay open to playing with different versions of the habit, as well as different ways to incorporate it into our lives. Once we find something we can consistently adhere to, even if initially less impressive than we might like, we can build on it.

This approach also allows us to release some of those nagging feelings of “not-enoughness,” which are perhaps the heaviest weights we carry with us on our paths forward.

Have a beautiful month! #redpill

John

 

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